When invited to a gathering of any kind, one should always bring something. It is a way to thank the host or hostess. What to bring depends on the type of party and one’s relationship with the host or hostess. For example, bringing soda pop, chips, or beer to a gathering to watch a televised sporting event is fine. In fact, it is even every likely – due to the informal nature of the event – that what is brought will be opened and shared with all.
Weddings are simper, as the couple will have registered and given guests options to chose from as to what to bring. Other gatherings, more formal gatherings, such as a nice dinner with friends or a holiday party, requires more effort on the guest’s part.
The easy answer is to bring wine or sparkling grape juice, whichever the host and/or hostess are more willing to enjoy. And, one should get the host/hostess’ brand and not a cheap knockoff. Even with sparkling grape juice, a known brand such as Welches would be more proper than an unknown imitation.
Likewise, fancy carbonated drinks (not generic pop such as Coke or Pepsi), quality coffee beans, or even a bottle a olive oil (for dipping bread) may take the place of wine or juice as a gift. The more original and inline with the host or hostess’ tastes the better.
Sticking to the realm of edibles, quality dried fruits or nuts would work. A gift basket with meats, cheeses, and crackers is another edible option. Old fashion candy can also be a hit. Really, the sky is the limit – provided what one brings doesn’t have to be used immediately.
Some may want to look outside the box of all things edible. There are other options. If one knows that the host or hostess enjoys taking pictures of their gatherings, a quality picture frame would be a perfect gift. For wine drinkers, a unique, quality wine opener might be perfect. A good book can be an acceptable gift, provided it is in the taste of the receiver.
Overall, kitchen tools should be avoided. Likewise, things like empty thank you cards, or recipe books may be seen as offensive – as if one is suggesting the host or hostess needs more practice in their entertaining skills. Only go with these with close personal friends one knows are not easily offended.
Final thought:
It is hard to go wrong, unless one fails to bring anything at all. Be creative, know the tastes of the receiver and one’s gifting will be perfectly enjoyable and acceptable.