Even after the Supreme Court ruling made it legal, same-sex marriage is still an issue in the United States. The far right in our country has given Christianity and the Bible a lot of bad press by pushing against the practice. Where is this coming from? Seeing that the god of most of these Christians seems to be the Bible itself, we must turn to the scriptures to see what the all the fuss is about.
The Law of Moses
Looking at their main argument, the Law of Moses states that men are not to have sexual relations with other men.
“Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.” – Leviticus 18: 22
This chapter goes on to condemn women lying with animals, but oddly does not speak to women lying with other women. With polygamy being under the Law, maybe it’s okay for women to lie with their sister wives? We do not know. It’s not very forthcoming.
We gain more clarity on the issue just a few chapters later:
“If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” – Leviticus 20: 13
This is translated literally as “And man he is lying down with male…” This seems quite explicit at first glance. To get a clearer image, let’s look at the bigger picture. The list of sexual sins in this chapter and chapter 18, is:
- Adultery is defined as a man lying with another man’s wife (not a man lying with an unmarried woman or a prostitute – Genesis 38: 12-26)
- A man may not lie with his father’s wife (his mother or not)
- A man may not lie with his daughter
- A man may not lie with his wife’s mother
- Neither man nor woman may lie with an animal
- A man may not lie with his sister, his father’s daughter, nor his mother’s daughter (no full or half sisters)
- A man may not lie with a woman on her period or he must go through steps to become clean again
- A man my not to take the wife of a relative (this obviously does not count the commandment to take a brother’s wife after that brother dies if he had no son – Deuteronomy 25: 5-10)
Breaking this down, we find that animals, seen as beneath humans, is not allowed. No keeping it in the family, with the exception of a dead brother’s wife. Women were tied to property, so a better way of saying this would be marriage couldn’t be used to to keep property within families.
No Sale
The Law of Moses seems to clearly state that men are not to have sexual relations with other men (Leviticus 18: 22 & 20: 13). However, what this means exactly is unclear, there are no known recorded instances of anyone being put to death for this sin mentioned in these verses. This may be due to the reasoning behind the actions. Deuteronomy 23:17 seems to clarify the commandment in Leviticus by using the term “kedeshah” which is interpreted as “temple prostitute.” We know that the Bible forbids us to sell our bodies for YHWH or any other gods.
This is important, in relation to when it was written, because women were property. The pagans kept women “pure” to sell their virginity in temples, which is against the Law of Moses. Deuteronomy 23:17 clarifies the commandments in Leviticus by using the term “kedeshah,” translated in English as “whore,” but is actually interpreted as “temple prostitute.” The Israelites kept women “pure” to sell them to other men in marriage.
The reality is that the list of “do not’s” is partially a sales guide. Looking at the list like this we see:
- Adultery is defined as a man lying with another man’s wife (not a man lying with an unmarried woman or a prostitute – Genesis 38: 12-26)
- A man may not buy his father’s wife (his mother or not)
- A man may not lie with his daughter
- A man may not lie buy wife’s mother
- Neither man nor woman may lie with an animal
- A man may not buy his sister, his father’s daughter, nor his mother’s daughter (no full or half sisters)
- A man may not lie with a woman on her period or he must go through steps to become clean again
- A man may not buy the wife of a relative
- A man may not buy another man (Leviticus 20: 13)
After all, if we just went with “lie with,” why add some of these? Aren’t some of these woman listed already owned? Only daughters may be sold by the father, and sisters sold by the oldest brother if the father is dead. And this is only speaking to males. There is nothing forbidding same sex relationships between women. This is likely because women couldn’t buy or sell anyone. Suddenly we understand this isn’t about sex — men are not property to be bought and sold like a woman. (Yes, this brings up other problems with the Bible, but we’ll address that later.)
Examples of Same-sex Relationships in the Bible
Some believe that Ruth and Naomi in the Book of Ruth is the story of a lesbian couple. Likewise, some see the relationship between David and Jonathan in the Book of Kings as a clear homosexual relationship and use this to defend the idea that being a temple prostitute is what is actually sinful.
David and Johnathan’s story is even more interesting, becasue Jonathan’s family found out, and they were upset. Yet neither of them were put to death. After an emotional and physical farewell, David went on to become king and Jonathan fought and died with honor in battle.
And Jesus Said…
The New Testament does make things clearer. Though Jesus does not speak on the topic, he does mock the idea of women being owned. In Matthew 22:23-22, Jesus is asked who gets a woman who was passed to seven brothers becasue they kept dying before she could have a son in the resurrection. He mocks them twice. The first time is because he knows they don’t believe in the resurrection.
The second way he mocks them is by saying that in heaven, or from their perspective (this is to say in a perfect world), women aren’t bought and sold. This is why they “were astonished at his doctrine” (Matthew 23:33). This corrects the problem of women being owned in the Law of Moses by making them equal to men in the Law of Christ.
Paul, Hater of Marriage
Then we have Paul. While Paul speaks against male to male relationships (1 Corinthians 6: 9, 1 Timothy 1: 10, 2 Timothy 3: 3, & Romans 1: 27 to name a few), he also spoke against heterosexual marriage as well (1 Corinthians 7: 7). This guy seemed to hate the idea of marriage period. This is for two reasons. First, he thought Jesus was coming back essentially around tomorrow. And second, he was a widower and was likely jealous. Sorry, he was only human.
Looking at just his statements on same-sex couples, we do not know if he is referring to all male homosexual relationships, or “kedeshah,” per the Law. We do know that he really only condemned male-male relationships. But, seeing that he also didn’t really like male-female relationships much better, it’s not a far stretch to say he wouldn’t have liked lesbian relationships either.
All that said, the reality is that he was most likely speaking against the pagan practice of encouraging men to begin homosexual relationships to keep women pure, so their virginity could be sold (kedeshah). This likely would have been an issue with gentile converts. And, to be fair, it is unnatural for a straight man to have relations with a homosexual man. I would agree that this kind of unnatural relationship should be discouraged. Let homosexual men marry homosexual men and straight men marry straight women. I guess I’m just old fashioned like that.
Clear as mud?
Once again, the Bible is being used as a weapon, not for personal correction. As a minister, this is my advice to anyone reading the Bible: Look at what you’ve read and take it internally. If it helps you love God or love your neighbor to greater degrees, then that’s God talking to you. Listen and make what you’ve learned a part of your life. If it doesn’t, the message there isn’t for you yet. And, if you think it’s telling you to judge someone else, remember Matthew 7:1-5 and understand that you’re using it wrong.
God Bless.